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(Nearly) Open Thread, January 30 2012

Many crafters and artists are drawn to their hobby or vocation because they love the physical property of the material - paint, wood, wool - that it involves. Is there a material you love to craft with? Let's hear about it.

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Hello to anyone who's clicked over from Pharyngula

It seems we've been mentioned rather disapprovingly on PZ Myers's blog, and we expect that skeptics who are interested in studying the evidence before drawing their own conclusions will be clicking over here to see what the fuss is about.

So, hello and welcome.

To address the issue: two things have happened which connect you to us directly to us. Somebody posting under the name 'PZ Myers' made a couple of comments linking to Dr Myers's old site; a bit suspicious, we e-mailed Dr Myers to find out if someone was spoofing his name. We haven't heard back, so we cannot make the presumption that this commenter was actually Dr. Myers absent any data to verify that hypothesis. Second, Dr Myers made a critical comment about us on his own blog:

At least since Fred turned his blog with its unique voice into a hostel for simpering accommodationists and incompetent fools, that’s [the allegation that we are hypocrites] true.

I used to read it regularly — at least a few times a week — but completely tuned out as those other weirdos turned it into a halfway house for confused blitherers.

We hope that if you read the blog here, you will come to a different conclusion.

We do not consider our position to be confused or weird. It is simply this: we believe that it is important to maintain bonds of friendship, communication and respect between people of different philosophical and metaphysical positions. (It's worth pointing out, for instance, that our administration team consists of one atheist, one Christian and one agnostic.) We are not a 'safe space' for any one group; instead we aim to be a 'safe-ish space' where the only major rule is that people do not fall below a basic level of courtesy to one another. We enjoy being a pluralistic place where we can hear worldviews that do not match our own because we feel that even if we disagree with those worldviews, it's best to hear about them from people who actually hold them. We like to learn from each other.

You could, if you like, call this accommodationist, but we do not think we're confused.

Of course we no longer have a unique voice: we no longer have a single blogger. This is now a community blog with a multiplicity of voices. We do, however, feel that we have preserved the spirit of Fred's original blog. Fred was notable for criticising what he saw as bad behaviour within his own group. The article that kicked off this fuss - a piece in which an atheist was strongly critical of atheist activist Greta Christina's stated goals of the atheist movement - was, we believed, in the same spirit. It was strongly worded, but Fred's pieces were often strongly worded as well; we did not necessarily agree with its position, but we don't refuse to publish articles just because we don't agree with them. We saw it as an article that fell just on the right side of the civility line that deserved to be put out there for debate, and which could be balanced out by other articles stating a contrary position if people chose to write them.

Well, debate happened, and attention has been called. We'll be publishing many other articles in future that express completely different worldviews. If you'd like to stick around and are prepared to abide by the community standards of 'don't be a jerk', you will be most welcome.

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This week in The Slacktiverse, January 29 2012

The Blogaround

Literata writes: "A small piece of good news is that I've had another poem published. It has been confirmed that my mother has cancer, and surgery will take place in February. We both continue to be deeply grateful for everyone's good wishes, thoughts, prayers, and candles; the support helps tremendously. Thank you all."

This week Laiima posted what I learned about myself from reading biographies.

This week, Storiteller revisited the subject of her experience raising composting worms and describes how to build your own worm composting bin in Vermiculture Made Cheap and Easy. As compost too often leads to fruit flies, she describes her Ultimate Fly Trap in Building a Better (Fruit) Fly Trap.

kisekileia writes :Matthew Paul Turner at www.matthewpaulturner.net has two posts up (MARK DRISCOLL’S CHURCH DISCIPLINE and MARK DRISCOLL’S ‘GOSPEL SHAME’) that expose some seriously spiritually abusive practices at Mars Hill Church in Seattle. (Trigger Warning: spiritual abuse, descriptions of arguably fundamentalist Christian thinking and behaviour, and sex-negativity) The comments include some people condoning spiritual abuse, but a lot of people opposing it as well.

Chris the Cynic writes: This week, I talked to Windows. I wrote a bit of exposition about monsters that doesn't have a story to go with it. I continued working my way through Deus Ex's training mission writing a post on things that didn't make it into final version, and then turning my attention to what did by looking at the character of Gunther Hermann and the mechanics of how guns work in the game. Finally I started a series of posts on the anime .hack//SIGN, with a general introductory post, and a post about what happens before the first word is spoken.

Michael Mock writes: This week at Mock Ramblings: on Monday I found myself radically overthinking yet another children's cartoon, so I asked if anyone could explain Bakugan to me. Tuesday contained nothing but sinus troubles an open thread on How To Recharge Your Creative Batteries and a link to a piece on How To Create A Wooden Sword For Your Kid. On Wednesday, (and still tired and cranky), I published a rebuttal to a post called "Too Smart To Have Children", and recommended an Austin, Texas band called The Heartless Bastards. Thursday's entry recounts my attempt to tell Firstborn a story by way of explaining the concept of Plot. Friday has been devoted entirely to religious humor: The New Priest, In Remembrance, and The Pope vs. The Rabbi.

Coleslaw writes: This week I wrote about Glimpse of Gaia, the Connecticut florist that delivered flowers to Jessica Ahlquist in Rhode Island when three local florists refused. A conference took my husband out of town, so I tagged along, saw the traveling exhibit DINOSAURS: Ancient Fossils, New Discoveries, and even took some pictures. In "Some Things Are More Important Than Fear", I reposted a video of an extremist group attacking author Irshad Manji at a book signing. My fascination with Polyvore continues. I put together another outfit, but this one I can actually afford.

The former conservative blogger reports: This week I wrote about Newt Gingrich's disregard for poor children, a bad anti-Obama facebook joke, Rick Santorum's failure to deny the ignorant claims of his birther supporters, my thoughts on Mark Driscoll and William Tapley, 3rd Eagle of the Apocalypse.

Last week Sarah reported: In the past two weeks, I've posted on music and poetry and Yeats's "The Stolen Child". I also posted some bits of Martin Luther King's speeches on war and poverty.

Last week Ana Mardoll posted:
Narnia: Playful Animals, Platonic Allies
We’re one chapter away from the end, and time for Aslan to gather the allies and join the battle. But I object to the conflation of “deformed” with “evil” and I am distressed that the “good” Giant in the Witch’s garden is good because of his family connections and not because he simply chose to be. Come explore classism and ableism in Narnia this week.

Last week Ana Mardoll posted:
Twilight: Hunting Rapists, Condoning Rape Culture
Edward Cullen has lived his life as a rapist-hunting vigilante. He is uniquely poised to understand rapists, because of his telepathic talents. So why does he use the same techniques and tactics to abuse isolate, gaslight, and control Bella, and why does he condone his romantic rivals doing the same?

In case you missed this

A member of our community sent in a link to this article (When safe words are ignored) on problems with consent in the BDSM community (Trigger Warning: sexual assault, victim blaming with regard to sexual assault).newsletter.

A member of our community thought this article (A Point of View: Can religion tell us more than science?) was relevant to the ongoing discussion at The Slacktiverse.

Another member of our community writes: I saw this news item (Trigger Warning: Domestic Violence)(New Hampshire Republicans Propose Bills That Prevent Police From Protecting Domestic Abuse Victims), think it should be mentioned:
The New Hampshire GOP has proposed a bill that would forbid police from making domestic violence arrests unless they witness the abuse firsthand or have a warrant. A concurrent proposal would limit the authority of judges to order arrests for those violating domestic abuse restraining orders.

Friday, 27th January, was International Holocaust Remembrance Day. Yesterday was the day that Auschwitz was liberated by Soviet troops. Here are some links to stories and art from Holocaust survivors about the war. (Trigger Warning: genocide, anti-semitism, racism, etc):

the story of a boy who survived the Budapest ghetto.
David Olére was a Polish painter who painted his memories of Auschwitz.
This site has the stories of six survivors, from Belgium, Lithuania, and Poland.

And some of the less talked about victims of the Holocaust:

about the Porajmos
Heinz Heger, a gay survivor of the Holocaust writes of his life in the homosexual block in a concentration camp.
about the treatment of the disabled

Things you can do

Theologies of Immanence has a page that provides links to a number of environmental and pagan friendly charities.

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Completely open thread Friday January 27 2012

Due to several requests in the comment threads, we now declare this an ABSOLUTELY OPEN THREAD.

One, two, three... Comment!

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Board Post, January 26 2012

 

Regular Business

Don't forget to send in items that you want included in This week in The Slacktiverse January 28/29 2012.

The three sections of the weekend post are:

The Blogaround

Any denizen of the Slacktiverse who has posted an article to their own website during since the previous weekend post is invited to send a short summary of that article along with its permalink to TBAT. That summary and link will be included in the next weekend blogaround. This will help to keep members of our community aware of the many excellent websites hosted by other members.

In Case You Missed This

Readers of The Slacktiverse can send short summaries of, and permalinks to, articles that they feel might be of interest to other readers.

Things You Can Do

Anyone who knows of a worthy cause or important petition should send a short description of the petition/cause along with its url to TBAT.

Deadlines

Please email all submissions to slackmods at gmail dot com. The deadline this week will be 2000 GMT on Saturday.

Urgent or time-sensitive announcements will be posted immediately rather than being held for the next regular "This Weekend" post.

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Atheist Announcements

TBAT has two major announcements on this subject:

1. The round table will be published on February 8 2012. We hope that we will be able to agree final drafts of all the pieces submitted by then; however, if a piece is still not in a version that both the author and TBAT can agree on, it will have to be omitted. We hope to include everything, but at this stage, getting it published in a version that represents at least most of the authors is the priority. Authors who could not agree with TBAT on a final version will be, of course, welcome to add their comments to the thread. If they do and people feel they were left out unfairly, TBAT reserves the right to explain what the disagreements were; obviously we won't quote any private correspondence should we need to make such an explanation.



2. As most of us know, an Atheist 101 was requested some time ago and we've been working on it for ages. However, while it's been referred to on and off as 'the atheist 101', we've been planning to call it an atheist round table rather than a 101, because we felt '101' wasn't quite accurate: there are so many different ways of being an atheist that a 101 on the subject would be practically impossible. How do you do a 101 without overgeneralising to the point that some atheists end up getting excluded from something that's supposed to speak for them? Well, lately we were struck by Nick Kiddle's comment^[1] which talked about this very problem: there are certain myths circulating about atheists, many of them hostile, and atheist activists have been taking steps to correct and debunk them. However, those debunkings can be a problem in themselves when they're too sweeping; in trying to refute the basic misconception that atheists are all miserable rotten people, one can sometimes risk sounding as if unhappy atheists, or atheists with mixed feelings, or even just atheists who disagree with other atheists, aren't 'proper atheists'.

So, we now have a 101 idea:

Atheist Myths 101: It's More Complicated Than That

The structure will be this:

Introduction:

In cultures where atheism is a minority position, there are often misconceptions about what atheists are actually like - and if atheists are a mistrusted minority, those misconceptions are often rather hostile to boot. Atheist activists are attempting to debunk these myths, quite rightly; however, when trying to debunk a hostile myth it can be easy to go too far in the other direction and end up oversimplifying things in a way that makes other atheists feel excluded. In the spirit of our motto, we'd like to promote an understanding of the debunked myths about atheism that's rather more complicated than that.

We will then list common myths about atheists or atheism, the common refutation to them, followed by a longer and More Complicated Than That discussion of the issue.

For example:

Myth:

Atheists believe in a hostile and meaningless universe.

Oversimplified response:

No, atheists simply locate meaning in non-divine interpretations of the universe.

More Complicated Than That response:

Atheism as a philosophical position doesn't necessarily imply a meaningless or hostile universe. Concepts like 'meaning' and 'hostile' are very much dependent on personal interpretation: what one person finds meaningful, another finds meaningless, and there's no absolute scale of 'hostile' or 'not-hostile' to measure things against. Some atheists consider the material universe to be meaningful in itself. Some atheists aren't particularly bothered about the nature of the universe and find meaning in other things. Some atheists do think it's a hostile and meaningless universe. Of those, some think that this is no reason not to enjoy life and create our own meaning while we're here. Others find life hard - atheists are just as prone to depression as anyone else - but simply don't believe in any deities even if they wish they could. Atheism is simply a lack of belief in deities; this can co-exist with a wide variety of beliefs about what kind of universe this is.

In the interests of preserving the privacy of atheists who would suffer from being 'outed' in their communities, the piece will handled in the same communal way as with the Depression 101. This means:

1. It will be credited thus: 'Co-authored by the Slacktiverse community.'
2. Suggestions and additions should be e-mailed to slackmods@gmail.com, who will edit and compile them.
3. Copyright will be public domain.

So if anyone wants to write a piece on atheism that they can sign their name to and retain copyright, best to write a solo piece and send it to us for publication separately.

Everyone who sends in a suggestion, addition or contribution to the Atheism 101 and anyone who emails TBAT indicating their interest in the project (including beta reading) will be sent (by return email) a link to the location of the working draft.

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^[1] The other thing that really bothers me is when people make pronouncements like "atheists don't see the universe as bleak and hostile". I know they mean that there is nothing inherent in atheism that would make you see the universe that way, but the way it comes across is always that atheists are all above such things. And I'm very much not. I do see the universe as bleak and hostile because of my history and my mental state. And I feel like I'm not welcome among atheists because I make the movement look untidy and give religious fundamentalists a weak point to attack. [The Problem of Proselytizing, Jan 20, 2012 at 05:40 AM]↩

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At Patheos: TFTM: This story can’t be part of this story

Fred Clark published a new post, TFTM: This story can’t be part of this story, at Patheos.com.

This week Fred writes about part 4 Left Behind II: Tribulation Force.

(Trigger Warning: Comments include discussions of suicide and suicidal ideation.)

Excerpt:

This is disappointing, a step backwards from the more capable and independent-minded Chloe we met in the first book and the first movie. The first Left Behind novel spent several chapters tracing Buck’s efforts to travel from Chicago to New York in the aftermath of the Event, yet Chloe managed to travel even further — from San Jose to Chicago — without any of the connections or financial resources Buck had at his disposal. She’s also the only person in that book with enough clarity and gumption to question Bruce’s pat, simplistic explanation of the calamity they’re all experiencing. But so far in this movie, she’s mostly been just a whiny brat.

And that seems deliberate. The earlier scene in the church-based emergency shelter seemed to have been included just to show us that Chloe is useless in a crisis. I wouldn’t have thought it possible, but the filmmakers’ treatment of female characters may be even worse than the madonna-whore abominations of the books. For the first half of this movie, Chloe exists only to serve as a foil — a weak character used to make Rayford and Buck seem stronger.

[Fred Clark, TFTM: This story can’t be part of this story, January 23, 2012, posted at Patheos.com]


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Kung Hei Fat Choi / Gong Xi Fa Cai

Today marks the beginning of the 15 day celebration of the "Chinese" new year. A large proportion of our planet's population (including, but not limited to, people living in the People's Republic of China, Hong Kong, Indonesia, Macau, Malaysia, the Philippines, Singapore, Taiwan and Thailand) will be taking part in the festivals that take place over the next 15 days.

Happy Year of the Dragon, one and all!

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Updated -- This week in The Slacktiverse, January 21/22 2012

The Blogaround

Sarah reports: In the past two weeks, I've posted on music and poetry and Yeats's "The Stolen Child". I also posted some bits of Martin Luther King's speeches on war and poverty.

This week Ana Mardoll posted:
Narnia: Playful Animals, Platonic Allies
We’re one chapter away from the end, and time for Aslan to gather the allies and join the battle. But I object to the conflation of “deformed” with “evil” and I am distressed that the “good” Giant in the Witch’s garden is good because of his family connections and not because he simply chose to be. Come explore classism and ableism in Narnia this week.

This week Ana Mardoll posted:
Twilight: Hunting Rapists, Condoning Rape Culture
Edward Cullen has lived his life as a rapist-hunting vigilante. He is uniquely poised to understand rapists, because of his telepathic talents. So why does he use the same techniques and tactics to abuse isolate, gaslight, and control Bella, and why does he condone his romantic rivals doing the same?

This week MercuryBlue posted a writeup for Affairs Magazine of the SOPA/PIPA/ACTA/Megaupload situation and the Black March boycott-the-media-industries meme that's going around.

Kit Whitfield continues her analyses of famous first sentences. This week: Anne of Green Gables by L.M. Montgomery, One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel Garcia Marquez and Brave New World by Aldous Huxley. She also explained why Among the many, many reasons I'm angry about the Stop Online Piracy Act.

This week Laiima wrote about: what to say when you don't have words, yet and using what's on hand to color fabric easily.

Chris the Cynic reports: This week I wrote about the police's multiple absurd and disturbing responses to theft and vandalism targeting Occupy Maine, and started a series of posts that will take an extended look at the videogame Deus Ex.

I made an introduction to Deus Ex, in which I completely derailed myself into trying to correct an old misconception, a post about the game's backstory, and a post explaining why I'll be using the original graphics when a better version exists). Then I started going through the training mission of the game. First I noticed how the future looks and a lack of exits, then I noticed some of the game mechanics and a lack of female characters. After that I talked about books in the game and my first coworker. Finally I discussed how very wrong the things being done for training actually are.

Storiteller started out the week with a seasonally-appropriate, hearty recipe that originated from throwing together some random ingredients in the fridge. After tweaking it a bit, she shares it in Vegan Umami for Beginners. After participating in the Great Internet Blackout against SOPA/PIPA on Wednesday, she explains why freedom of speech is so important to her personally and for society in "No Such Thing As Public Liberty, Without Freedom of Speech".

Coleslaw writes: This week I took an Excerpt I had deleted from a previous post and turned it into its own post. (Trigger Warning: mention of murder/suicide.) While shelving my Mikasa Fruit Panorama dinnerware, I recalled my late mother-in-law, who gave it to me (with pictures). I wrote about the losses of an important game and a local radio station in Scoreless. Finally, I have a new hobby, creating outfits (Such as thisSummer outfit) I can't possibly afford using online clip art (more pictures).

The former conservative blogger reports: This week I wrote an article wondering whether I should participate in the Republican primary, I wrote about robocalls from Mitt Romney, I continued my series about why I'm no longer conservative and I wrote a couple of fun posts about geeky stuff (Geeky stuff I’m excited about, I’m tired.)

Michael Mock writes: This week at Mock Ramblings, I posted some questions to keep in mind when reviewing scenes, described possibly the weirdest dream I've ever had, and revealed my latest invention: self-heating tea. I also added sections to two of my ongoing writing projects: Apocalypse River and They Are Legion.

rejiquar writes: Though posted to rejiquar.com & my tumblr a week ago, I only just managed to get x-posted to lj (which has the advantage of easy commenting): Kingdom Come intro and essay, which are xposted (though without the links) to livejournal and tumblr.

From the intro:
Fred over at slacktivist had a post on the upcoming superhero movie, and J Enigma urged Fred to check out Kingdom Come, saying he would love it.

I'd be curious indeed to see what Fred would make of it, but in the meantime, here's my reaction, in which I attempted some of the sort of thing Fred and Ana Mardoll do so well.

J. Enigma reports: First up, Human Black Box (Trigger Warning: Transhumanism, Language, Uplifting, Child Abuse, Violence, Disturbing Imagery.) I haven't updated Human Black Box in a while, but today, I finally managed to collect all of the posts relating to the first 8 parts into one PDF document, complete with pictures and character stats at the end. As it's released under the Share and Share-alike license, the content is free for anyone to edit, remix, or incorporate new content into, so long as you credit me first. You can find that post here: Human Black Box now a PDF. For those conscious about it, there's mild nudity in some of the pictures.

(Trigger Warning: Transhumanism.) I made a post a while back about Transhumanism and the ethnic identity. It's a tricky subject to write about, but an interesting one to explore. I also wrote a post about a couple of new technologies, including one that targets certain aspects of aging and slows them, and a look at some potential post-singularity technology, (Nanotech is so 21st century.)

I've spent some time busting up poor critical thinking lately, so I started with this whole 2012 nonsense, considering that's the big thing. I made a post about how Homer Predicted Air-conditioning (technically just an image) as a lead into a larger post about the fallacies that one finds when dealing with Bible code seekers, prophecy believers, and conspiracy theorists. I also took strong offense at the ableist notion that children with AD/HD are somehow "psychic" and "special" - and dismantled the entire notion of "indigo children", including how much harm it does to deny these children treatment, (Trigger Warning: discussion of ableism, discussion of negative attitudes toward ADHD and austism) (I am apparently an indigo child).

(Trigger Warning: Language, Bigotry, Homophobia, Extreme Misogyny, Theofascism.) Lastly, I took a look at the rewritten "Constitution" according to the fascists at the Liberty Council in "The New Christian Sharia". It's a very scary thing.

Last week Ana Mardoll posted:
Twilight: Bad Thoughts... Bad People?
I think a lot of the reason why people dislike Bella is because she thinks very negative things about people. And now she has Edward and they can be negative together! But does her persistently negative thoughts make her a bad person/character, or are they meant to be something more cathartic or... what? Come help me decide.

Last week Ana Mardoll posted:
Deconstruction: Why Your Well-Intentioned Advice Was Called 'Victim-Blaming'
(Trigger Warning: rape and rape discussion, racism.)
Written in response to the “If I Were A Poor Black Kid” opinion piece in Forbes.

In case you missed this

From MercuryBlue: the writeup, from a not-a-lawyer-but-very-familiar-with-applicable-law perspective, of the Megaupload situation. tl;dr: Megaupload did a laundry list of stupid things, but SOPA et al are not necessary to deal with them because existing US law does the job just fine.

According to an article in The New York Times a New Definition of Autism Will Exclude Many, Study Suggests: Proposed changes in the definition of autism would sharply reduce the skyrocketing rate at which the disorder is diagnosed and might make it harder for many people who would no longer meet the criteria to get health, educational and social services, a new analysis suggests.
The impact of these changes is further discussed in another New York Times article, A Specialists’ Debate on Autism Has Many Worried Observers

This week The Toronto Star published an article, Afghan schoolgirl Roya faced down police in Kandahar airport, about a seventeen-year-old woman from Afghanistan coming to Canada to get the education that she hopes will allow her to return, one day, to Afghanistan. Roya Shams's father, a district police chief, was assassinated by the Taliban last July.

Later in the week the same newspaper published a piece written by Roya Shams about her first days in Canada.

How the Internet blackout affected congressional support for PIPA/SOPA

MercuryBlue writes: Shattering the Stigma is a resource for the Venn intersection between folk with mental health issues and nonreligious folk. I don't know how helpful it'll be, but it's a start.

Things you can do

From Doctors Without Borders/Médecins Sans Frontières: Humanitarian negotiations are life-and-death issues for people in need, but they also raise troubling political and ethical dilemmas for the organizations that are engaged in them....Please join us for a live online discussion of these issues featuring several experienced MSF aid workers, who will share their first-hand experiences from past assignments. They will describe the often complicated process of negotiating with governments, armed groups, public health officials, international actors, community leaders, and local officials; as well as the struggle to define what compromises are acceptable in order to run programs in crisis zones.

Those who are interested in the discussion can register (online and free) for this live online event.

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Taking Pride: Walking A Heathen Path Away from Guilt

I was raised to be humble, to always think of others, not to be selfish, not to brag, and to always remember how much better off I was than most of the people in the world. A large part of this came from the Christian, specifically Congregationalist and Presbyterian, aspects of my heritage, and the way they intertwined with the specific Midwestern German cultures of my grandparents. Some of it certainly came from my parents' experiences traveling and living abroad and interacting with refugees. And some may have come from a family propensity to depression and related disorders.

So I've grown up bad at taking compliments, bad at saying no to volunteering, and terrible at spending money, especially on myself. I don't want to draw attention. I never want to speak in public unless my facts are unassailable, my preparation impeccable...and everyone else is too busy. I don't want to turn in school or work assignments that aren't perfect. My parents and my culture meant to teach me humility, but what I learned was shame.

I'm searching for a job, and writing and sending resumes and cover letters is the most painful thing in the world. It's not the writing...not mostly... I like writing, and it can come very easily... What I hate and do poorly is sales, especially when my work is the product, or I am. I paid for a professionally-written resume, and I think the person it describes sounds pretty awesome...and very little like me.

My mother once told me that she didn't think living a decent life and raising your family to be happy was enough to qualify you as a good person who had really served Christ. I'm not sure I disagree with that; I'm not against caring about, and working for, the good of other people, whether you know them or not. There's a lot of suffering and injustice that needs fixing. But somehow the way I grew up thinking about it just led to guilt and feelings of failure.

And then there came the days, and months, and years when getting out of bed and holding down a job were more than I could handle. The pinnacle of Good Person status seemed even higher and more unattainable from the depths of my personal abyss.

Yet even there I could know my gods. On days when I couldn't send an email, I could reach for the weak, long-dormant stirrings of poetry in my soul and reach out to Bragi^[1a]. On days when all I could manage was feeding the cat, I could touch my husband, or myself, and know the power in joy that Freya^[1b] can impart. Even when I lived in a tiny apartment with nothing but a stump in the gravel yard, I could hear, and feel, the crack of thunderbolts, and pour out a beer for Thor^[1c].

We Heathens have a few basic rituals, and one of them is sumbel. We pass a cup or horn, and toast, and boast, and hail, and occasionally swear. Before I ever knew that I would call myself a Heathen, I joined the Society for Creative Anachronism and sat in toasting circles. Pass the bottle, drink (or don't), and give a toast, make a boast, sing a song, tell a story, share a joke, do a trick... Mostly we sang songs and toasted our heroes and friends, living and dead. I sang a lot of songs, and wrote quite a few, as well. It felt like my soul had come home.

I never liked to sit in church, and now I don't have to. Sometimes I listen to sermons online. I listen to a lot of podcasts about religion. But for me the religious experience is much more about gathering, in the woods if you can, to share some of yourself with your folk and your gods.

I've done that quite a bit lately, but always alone, and I miss having a group to do it with. Every time I craft words to honor something that's important to me, I feel like I'm getting stronger. I can boast of my own deeds (though it's agonizingly hard, still, to see what I've done that's good enough). And I can honor the work and sacrifice of old heroes without thinking I need to live in their image. My grandmother. My parents. Archbishop Romero. Jesus.

Heathens spend a fair amount of time discussing what it means to adopt the worldview of this ancestral folkway, and the difficulties in doing that while percolating in a Christian culture. I'm not much worried about that. I don't really think there was much wrong (for me) with my worldview or ethics growing up; there was just a mismatch between my declared Christianity and the beliefs and practices I found to be true and meaningful. There is a wide variety of ways to be a Christian, and many of those traditions, especially in my Protestant heritage, were shaped by our Germanic pagan ancestors.

Wherever I am, I want to show my love and honor to everyone who shaped me, supported me, taught me, and inspired my search for spiritual fulfillment. I am so, so grateful that I don't have to choose between my faith and my family, or my current religious communities and the welcoming one I grew up in.

Christian friends of Christian family members often say insensitive things, assuming everybody in the room shares their assumptions. And my mom continues to buy books about The Easter Story and whatnot for my kids. I have to explain how these things feel, and why I want them to stop. But we have blended our Heathen and Christian holiday decorations and music. We live on the upstairs floor of my parents' house, they lent me a table for my altar, and their greatest concern is that I'll leave candles unattended.

My grandmother used to live up here too, and her influence is everywhere. In the mittens she knitted for my kids, and the knitting skills she taught them. In the pie pans and muffin tins she used to bake us wonderful, nourishing food. In the Bible quotes and little model churches decorating the kitchen. The mightiest of my Disir^[2] hang out with Jesus, and we're all fine with that. I look forward to toasting them among my Beloved Dead. I'm still proud of them, and hope they are of me. I think they are and should be. I feel more like a superhero-in-training each day.

--Lonespark

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1. ^[a]Bragi is a god of poetry, mainly. ↩

^[b]Freya is a mighty goddess of lots of things, whose power and influence touch on magic and sexuality and war and prosperity. This is a good book about her.↩

^[c]Thor is a god of lightning and thunder and he fights giants and protects the world from chaos. Plus Sif and grain and farming and adventures and Loki…ok, you should really just go read some myths and Heathen scholarship instead of asking me. This might be a good place to start. Wikipedia is also your friend, and I can suggest more links.↩

2. Female guardian spirits associated with a given family. Female ancestors can be disir, not all disir are necessarily ancestors, not all ancestors can or should end up as disir, YMMV, etc.↩

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Board Post, January 19 2012

 

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(Nearly) Open Thread, January 18 2012

Today (January 18) a number of sites on the internet are "going black" in an effort to educate people as to the possible effects of pending American legislation. While we (TBAT) share those concerns we think it is also important to remember than many (perhaps most) people in the world are faced with other significant challenges (legal, economic and infrastructural) that prevent equal access to information and opportunities.

Consequently we throw this thread open to discuss any and all the things that stand in the way of equal access to the information and opportunities the internet can provide and to ways of changing those things.

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